September 13, 2007
Errors serve a useful purpose: they tell us when to change direction. When things go smoothly, we generally don’t think about them. To a great extent, this is because we function according to the principle of negative feedback.
I used to do twice as many mistakes : doing them and then not admitting it.
When I started to admit them, whole-heartedly, I realised that I became more cautious in not doing the same again. In addition, it made the relationships much smoother both in my professional and personal life.
The only problem is when you deal with people that don’t similarly admit their own. It gets really annoying because you think that by publicly accepting yours (which is always a bitter pill to swallow) they realise how much it contributes to ease the relationship.
But they don’t, and instead take advantage of the situation, insisting on the ones you’ve admitted willingly. This is dead unfair and quite frustrating.
I found this happening many times in my job. I dont want to sound too negative with my fellow citizens, but in France c’est de ma faute (it’s my fault) is one of the two things you’re the least likely to be told by a colleague. The other one being je suis vraiment content que ca marche pour toi (I’m so happy with you being successful).
Did this happen to you as well ? How did you deal with such unfair situation whereby you admit your mistakes to people that never do likewise and take advantage of this ?